I recently was faced with a dilemma.
I had to write a resume for a class project, and more than anything in the world, it showed me the depth of my self doubt, as well as the plague of insecurity I have in myself, and my work.
Maybe you’ve been there.
You are writing a resume, for work or a class, and as you carefully craft your descriptions and experiences, you start to feel your anxiety levels increasing dramatically, which leads to endless self-questioning:
“Should I alter my skills portion, as not to raise expectations, and disappoint my employer later?
These are questions I asked myself. Maybe its impostor syndrome, maybe its just fear manifesting itself under that guise, but either way, it is detrimental to not only myself, but those who depend on me.
I’m not suggesting that you can fabricate confidence where there is not competence. Competence is key, and I’m convinced that without it, blind, unfounded confidence will lead to eventual disaster (look at our president for confidence without competence). But, if there is something that you are competent at, confidence must follow, or progress will stall.
I did not learn many things from my uncle. he was a rather hateful man that once hinted that I might be going to hell for having tattoos, but one thing (and perhaps the only thing) that I admired about him was his unwavering work ethic.
He now runs a tech company that services million-dollar clients, and when I interned with him briefly, I found out that his secret to success was simple.
He said to me once, “I saw that other people had accomplished something that I wanted, and I knew that those people breathed the same air as me, had the same blood as me, and lived in the same world as me. There’s nothing that they could do that I couldn’t do it, as long as I was willing to sacrifice.”
He might be ignorant, but his statement in that moment resonated with me, and from time to time it resurfaces to encourage me. the point of this post is to hopefully re-package it to encourage you as well.
What is your goal?
Do you want to write a novel? Do you want to start teaching? Do you want to graduate college? Do you want your dream job? Do you want to move up in your company, or even start your own company?
Decide what it is you want. When you have that goal clearly envisioned, look to see who else has already accomplished it.
Who are the people that have written novels, anyone that you know? Who are the teachers that inspired you personally? Who are the college graduates that you’ve seen, or maybe that you are friends with? Who has that dream job that you want, and how did they get there? Who that you’ve met started their own business?
What you’ll most likely find out is that the people that have done these things are not so much different than you. Some of them may have had advantages that you don’t possess, but the rest of them probably faced disadvantages that you are free of. Either way, as my uncle said, if they can do it, so can you.
Imagine the novel you’d write if you only believed that you could do it. Imagine the students you’d impact as a teacher. Imagine the feeling of walking across that stage at graduation. Imagine landing that dream job and changing your life forever. Imagine the sense of accomplishment the day your business gets started.
All of these things are possible, but you are your own barrier.
As I finish my resume this morning, I think about where I’m heading. I feel uneasy, and still lack confidence, but at the root of who I am, my uncle’s words motivate me.
I am as capable as anyone that has the job I want. They are just like me, human. If they belong, so do I, as long as I’m willing to sacrifice and work hard to be there.
Friends, push forward.